How To Shrink An Elephant

By Wendy Brookhouse

Aug 13

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room.

That one in the corner, sitting silent for now, brooding… getting hungrier and hungrier, side-eyeing you. That elephant won’t take its eyes off you and the big bag of elephant food you’re sitting on. 

 That elephant is Money… and everything to do with it. Earning, spending, having, showing, dreaming about, wishing about, worrying about.

What I know for sure is that the elephant, if not acknowledged, fed, watered, and given love and respect, can cause a lot, and I mean A LOT, of damage.  

It will trample your relationships, job productivity, mental health and financial future.  

 So, how do you tame a hungry-hangry money elephant?

 First, you see it. And talk to other people willing to discuss the elephant in the room.

As long as you stay stuck in your corner, ALONE, looking into the eyes of a threatening, hungry elephant, you’re going to feel paralyzed, anxious, obsessed with spotting those first signs of trouble.

 That’s what happens with money. We avoid it, ignore it, pretend we don’t care about it, worry we care about it too much, tell ourselves stories. And the whole time we feel a current of shame, embarrassment, stress and anxiety. The elephant grows bigger and bigger. 

 When you get comfortable talking about money, the elephant starts to shrink.

 There’s a way to ease into these conversations and start dismantling the money myths. One way is to talk about your memories of money as a child. When did you realize what money was for? How did your parents talk about money? How did they treat money? And how is that affecting you today?

 I wrote a guide on how to shrink an elephant, I mean your Money Conversation Guide. You can get your copy here.  

Because there’s nothing worse than spending your whole time at this party, stuck in a corner, fearing the elephant who won’t look away. 

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